Administering Peace
Forgiveness is not a feeling. It is not saying…
"Don’t worry about it."
"No problem."
"I’ve already forgiven you, let’s just go on."
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Forgiveness is covering all the bases…
Base 1

Forgiveness is a commitment that we make to each other and to ourselves.
The other person heals best when they hear complete forgiveness offered. We heal best when we offer complete forgiveness. Because of this, it is best to to express our commitment to forgive in words.
Forgiveness should be complete. Use Base 2 as a ‘template’ to state forgiveness.
Base 2​

The words:
I forgive you.
I won’t bring this up against you in the future to you. I won't complain to others about it.
It is important to me that we have a good relationship.
I will put this incident behind us. I will work to restore our relationship.
Base 3​

Sometimes incidents need to be remedied with appropriate consequences.
Even if that is the case, Base 2 is our commitment that we won’t hold grudges or say negative things to or about the other person.
If the hurt is deep, you may have to visit your commitment to forgive often.